How many times have you heard someone say that? In all honesty most of the time it is me saying it, I still moan about how situations turn out and won’t shut up about it either. The world is not a fair place, not everyone gets what they want or what they deserve and sometimes things end up worse because of it. When you were a child and didn’t get your way you would throw a tantrum as your attempt to change things. Sometimes it might have worked for you but then it all depended on your parents. As an adult everything is different, you are in control not your parents, tantrums don’t get you anywhere other than maybe fired.
Perhaps this post could be considered my tantrum as I am declaring that life isn’t fair and of course it isn’t going to get me anywhere but it’s good to vent. Some people tell you to just ‘get over it’ but that is some shit advice, some things aren’t that easy to just get over and most of the time you learn that the hard way. So here’s the thing, if you think life is unfair and things are getting you down you are not going to be able to just get over it. You need the time to adjust; you need to accept the situation and you need to learn how to think about it in a different way. Moaning about it isn’t going to get you anywhere and once you accept that and make some kind of change things might start to improve.
So what situation is it for you that you aren’t too fond of at the moment? There is always something, always one thing that pops into your head when you think of something being unfair. When a situation has left you feeling that everything is unjust the first thought is to give up, why should you continue to try with anything when it doesn’t go your way? What you have to think about though is that you aren’t the only person in the world, a fact that a lot of people forget about on a far too frequent basis. An unfair situation for one person could be completely reasonable for another; you don’t know if someone else has worked hard on being your competition and deserved it, how do you know if the situation you are in is one that can’t be helped?
Unfairness is an opinion, to a degree that is. Now if someone cheats that isn’t fair, lying isn’t right and nor is taking advantage but these are things that happen every day. The world is filled with bad circumstances which can’t be helped and you just happen to be part of that. We cannot help the way the world works but we can give it a good go. Don’t sit there and moan about things when you can make a change, if you can’t be bothered then you don’t have the right to comment. Hate your job? Look for a new one. Don’t like where you live? Move. Moaning about never having money? Stop spending it. Take control and do something about it. I made the change and I am proud to say that I have turned things around, can you say the same?